Epiphany on Forgiveness – Thanks to Gabby Bernstein
Last night while reading Spirit Junkie: A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles, by Gabrielle Bernstein I had an epiphany. As I was reading about forgiveness I read the quote from a Course in Miracles, “Do you prefer to be right or happy?” That question made me pause.
You see I have been having trouble forgiving someone from my recent-past. Their actions and their words hit me at my core and made me question myself. Just thinking about it, makes me angry all over again. I know I need to release this anger, for me, no one else, but it has been a difficult road trying to accomplish this. Just when I think I have made some progress I slide right back to the beginning. But this one question from The Course in Miracles, “Do you prefer to be right or happy?” made me think. Part of the anger is from my ego and feeling hurt that someone I worked closed to could be acting the way she was and saying what she was saying. She was hurting my pride, not my soul or happiness…
In Gabby Bernstein’s’ book Spirit Junkie: A Radical Road to Self-Love and Miracles, Gabby states “We can bend over backwards to reinforce the idea that we’re victims, but that doesn’t make us feel good. The willingness to release the need to be right is a step forward to forgiveness.”
These words got me thinking, part of my anger is that I was feeling like a “victim,” feeling betrayed and upset by her actions and words, what I feel only someone who is heartless could do. Though I do not agree with anything this person stands for and never will, she sold her soul to the devil, long ago, I need to move on and forgive. Forgiveness will help me. In Gabby’s words, “I am willing to release the wall that I have placed between us.” I agree to disagree with her and her actions, but to forgive her, so I can move one.
I am going to follow Gabby’s meditation that is in her book to accomplish this. May each of us forgive and move on from past hurts so that we may live fully in our present and futures!
Best wishes to all of you xo